The time after the first date can be a very emotional experience. The excitement of what to do next can be racing through someone’s mind. These emotions are magnified even further if the date was a success. This however is a time to slow down and play it cool. The last thing anyone wants to do is scare of a potential Mr or Mrs right.
There are many excited singles longing to reach for the phone at the first opportunity. Getting to know someone doesn’t need to be achieved within a few days, it’s a process that needs to take time. The relationship needs space to breath. A day or two after the first date is a perfect time to collect thoughts, and as they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder.
When you do get around to that first phone call remember to stay relaxed and don’t come across as being infatuated. Try to get a sense of how the date went for the other person. When the time is right mention how the date went for you, and see what type of response you get. If it’s a positive one you have the option of talking about another date, or playing it cool a little longer. Maybe call them again in another couple of days, but still leave them with the feeling that you are very interested. You don’t want to give them the impression you are not as this could put doubts in their mind.
The next call should be about the second date if you haven’t mentioned it in the previous call. Arrange a quiet place for the date so you can still chat in comfort, and get to know them a bit more.
As the dates progress, adding fun to them can bring two people closer. Trying an activity for the first time like bowling can create some humor. Learn to laugh together, it’s a very romantic emotion.
The time after your first date can be an exciting, emotional experience. Remember to relax, play it cool, and don’t come across as being infatuated, and everything should run along smoothly.